"mental load" women carry... trying to juggle in your brain everything for yourself, the house, the children, your job and delegating tasks and appointments to your partner who is not carrying all of that in their brain. Women have to make the choice, often before the baby is even born, or soon after when their hormones are all jacked up, whether taking time and a financial hit is worth the time at home with your child. I can't speak for other professions, but as a teacher you would think the job lends itself to being a parent. I am not going to lie, when I first considered changing my direction in college that was one of the things that drew me to the profession. I would be able to spend summers with my kids, have their same school schedule and breaks, etc. I also thought that trying to plan kids around summer would be ideal... that way you don't have to take time off from work. Being a teacher and taking time off is far worse than just going to work. You have to create plans for someone else to do your job and control 30+ kids that know a sub means they don't know the norms of the classroom. I have had a summer baby, a fall baby and a spring baby and have learned quite a bit about maternity leave as a teacher. Not as great as I thought for a profession centered around other people's children when it comes to having your own...
What I didn't know when I was in college is that the districts basically punish women who take time off to have children. We don't technically get a maternity leave, we get an approved FMLA which is 12 weeks, unpaid, off for having a baby. I am allowed to use my sick days, if I have them, for the first 6 weeks... unless you have a baby in the summer... which in that case if the baby is 6 weeks old and you are cleared medically which you usually are, then you are "baby bonding" and sick days cannot be applied to FMLA and the 12 weeks goes completely unpaid... BUT I am constantly told I still can take that time, wow, thanks, I get to choose whether time with my child is worth the $15,000+ pay cut for the year, I feel fortunate now. What makes all of this even better is that you still have to make your plans for your sub... even though you aren't getting paid!... and I was even asked to find my own sub. So on top of the stress of being pregnant, I was scrambling to write day-to-day lesson plans and find someone to replace me, which is not as easy as it sounds since we are already on a teacher shortage and subs don't get paid very well. If you do get to use your sick days, then returning to work I really hope your child doesn't get sick because you have no more days to use.
I could obviously say more, don't even get me started on the pressure for women to breastfeed on top of work and everything else, but my rant is over for now. Hopefully by the time my daughters have children the United States has started to value women as working mothers, in the mean time you will find me, and most working women, burning the candle at both ends trying to do and be it all.